Making that Handshake: Insights for Indonesians in working with different culture.
Updated: May 31, 2019
I was once interviewed for a book, written by Professor Hora Tjitra, Hana Panggabean and their Atmajaya University academic team, whose mission was to understand the challenge that Indonesian usually has in working with multicultural environment and make them thrive. Here it is in summary, on what mostly challenges that made most of "cultural handshakes" failed for Indonesians when it comes to work with different culture.
The Indonesian Chemistry.
One, it is about 'The Indonesian Chemistry' - that's how I called it. Based on my experience of meeting with global Indonesian talents, having Indonesian community, fellow, or friends remain key as emotional support on surviving and thriving when they work abroad-- regardless how skillful they are and how qualified they are as individual leader in their subject matter expertise. This is the reason why, Indonesian social group always exist in so many places. And if you are Indonesian who works abroad, it is likely that you'll be making friends (and best friends) with other Indonesians who also live and work in the same company or city/country where you are based. Its inherent in our "collective-collegial" needs of being. The sooner Indonesian talent find his/her community, the better they usually cope with challenges at work.
Second, the habit of looking for harmony in a meeting. This is also related to the non-verbal gesture culture that becoming norms in Indonesia, but not likely in many other culture. When you are in most of Indonesians meeting, you can simply be silent to show your disagreement of a plan. Thinking that you can then take things "offline", and approach the person outside the formal meeting to share your concerns, and try to find out a win-win solution. This is where culture clash: whereas within global professional setup, a decision taken in a meeting is irreversible. 'Speak now or forever hold your peace' is what most culture of many global companies meetings are, because time and speed is essential. Meetings, by most culture, is a decision making forum. For Indonesians, it is a relationship-building forum. This is why challenging others in meetings perceived as 'unnecessary' for many Indonesians as it is considered as risking relationship you have built. Just like work is personal for many Indonesians, things he/she says in meetings also considered as 'personal', while for many other culture, work is work -- nothing personal. In other culture, you can debate and fight over ideas and plan in meeting, and you can go for meals and drinks together afterward. For Indonesian, critics or harsh feedback in meeting can be taken as personal offense. This 'public-face' culture that is very strong in Indonesian's norms is not the case somewhere else. Can you imagine how confusing it is for Indonesians when they joined in a meeting where conflicting views, debates and tension is taking most of the minutes?
Good intent of Humility that might risk your credentials.
Third, is the humility that made Indonesian shows him/her self as the underdog. Due to collegial culture, Indonesian feels that any achievements are teams. not 'because of me.' Of course, it is very positive as it make Indonesian's culture collaborative by nature, but it is also detrimental professionally as great individual talent is 'worry' of being outstanding and hold him/her self back in showing what he/she is capable of. In many interviews of Indonesian candidates for a global/regional leadership role, Hiring Manager sometimes confused on what are impacts that a person really made, because the candidate always refer to things that "we" did, instead of highlighting his/her personal contribution to the result of his/her successful stint. When I was the HRBP of regional function, I help the interview process by specifically asking the question: "What do you INDIVIDUALLY do, to make that brilliant deliverable done?" -- then, the true answer shows up. And I did that deliberately, as I know the cultural context of this extreme humility in most Indonesians.
Aspiring Indonesian Talents: here is how to thrive.
Despite all the above are positives in many ways at home, when it comes to work with different culture, all the above become 'blind spots' that risk Indonesian talent/leaders credentials. My advise to any aspiring Indonesian talent who would like to go and work abroad, be conscious on these habit and learn to change it as you grow your multicultural leadership muscle. Just like a handshake, you need to extend your hand and willingness to change, so that other culture can also start understand you better. Because when you do that 'cultural handshake', Indonesian leader would have the best of both world: very independent yet socially-balanced, assertive yet able to bring out synergy within the team, and proud yet humble, which made you approachable and being vulnerable, that make your learning agility to be a better person and a better leader make you continuously relevant as talent.
And if you say that: " I am Indonesian talent/leaders, but I don't experience all the challenges mentioned above ". Then lucky you, because you have been exposed to very niche grooming environment that made you very independent, able to speak up your mind and dare to challenge others in meetings, and proudly admit distinctive impacts you individually made. Out of my 15 years of experience, I spend 5 years abroad. I learned my lesson in a hard way, so I wish my fellow Indonesian talents can skip through the hardship through this blog.
For more complete insights on this topic, in which I was just one of the respondents of this 18-years of research, I recommend you to read the full and complete book. (Hora Tjitra & Hana Panggabean, 2015. "Kearifan Lokal, Keunggulan Global: Cakrawala Baru di Era Globalisasi ". Jakarta: Elex Media Komputindo)